Mouth...Mouth...

I notice that it is so easy for me to show my dissent by venting out and telling stories about other people. Also, talking about someone, when we know that what we've said would upset the person (even if it is true), that is considered back biting!

Yes, I am going to make it a point to watch what I say. And if I find myself in a situation where people cannot help but to talk bad about others, or mock others, I'll make an excuse to just get myself out from the conversation.

Ramadhan....Ramadhan....

Make a sacrifice this Ramadhan, and god will listen to your prayers with utmost attention...and may the spirit of Ramadhan illuminate the world and show us the way to peace and harmony...

(It was) the month of Ramadan in which was revealed the Qur’aan, a guidance for mankind and clear proofs for the guidance and the criterion (between right and wrong). So whoever of you sights (the crescent on the first night of) the month (of Ramadan i.e. is present at his home), he must observe Sawm (fasts) that month…”
- [al-Baqarah 2:185]

I Was Here....

I wanna leave my footprints on the sands of timeKnow there was something that, and something that I left behindWhen I leave this world, I'll leave no regrets, toLeave something to remember, so they won't forget

I was hereI lived, I lovedI was hereI did, I've done, everything that I wantedAnd it was more than I thought it would beI will leave my mark so everyone will knowI was here

I want to say I lived each day, until I dieAnd know that I meant something in, somebody's lifeThe hearts I have touched, will be the proof that I leaveThat I made a difference, and this world will see

I was hereI lived, I lovedI was hereI did, I've done, everything that I wantedAnd it was more than I thought it would beI will leave my mark so everyone will know

I was hereI lived, I lovedI was hereI did, I've done, everything that I wantedAnd it was more than I thought it would beI will leave my mark so everyone will knowI was here

I just want them to knowThat I gave my all, did my bestBrought someone to happinessLeft this world a little better just because

I was here

I was hereI lived, I lovedI was hereI did, I've done, everything that I wantedAnd it was more than I thought it would beI wanna leave my mark so everyone will knowI was here.

“There is nothing worse than having an enemy who is a total loser. It's incredibly frustrating when seeking revenge against one, because you come to the realization that there is really nothing you can do to make the person's life worse than it already is. They have nothing to take, there is no way to screw them over if you have been their victim. It's maddening.” 

Forgiveness Between Husband & Wife...

Forgiveness Between Husband And Wife.

 The foundation of a family is laid through marriage. The relationship between husband, wife should be strong and ever- lasting. Rasulullah (SAW) said: ”The best among you is he who treats the members of his family best.” In order to maintain harmony within the family, Islam looked down upon divorce and considered it as the most obnoxious in the sight of Allah. Let us really and truly try to avoid the anger, wrath and curse of Allah that comes with divorce, let us lower our pride and ask our spouse for forgiveness, making and working hard at our marriage, let’s us learn how to forgive and ask forgiveness.

Healing yourself and healing disruptions and challenges in relationships is vital to move forward as a couple effectively. Forgiveness allows a resumption of unity and to move forward as a couple. When grudges or resentment remain instead, the bond between the couple is strained and damaged. In relationships where forgiveness does not occur, for either small or large hurtful words and actions, the bond often begins to fail. Therefore we should understand and practice this concept more regularly and intentionally.Forgiveness is pardoning someone for saying or doing something hurtful or harmful, giving up a desire for revenge and letting go of anger and resentment.

Forgiveness effectively when he/she:

1) Examines what happened with discernment and compassion, tries to understand it and the person, accepts it as unchangeable, grieves sufficiently, and lets go of his/her feelings of anger, resentment, pain, or bitterness

2) Gives others and himself/herself the opportunity to restore a relationship after a hurtful experience, speaking and acting as needed to express remorse, apologize, change, make amends, resolve issues, reconcile, and start over anew

4) Seeks to understand the values, and viewpoints of others

5) Resists focusing excessively on the faults and mistakes of others and himself/herself, releasing grudges or hurts about words or actions

6) Values inner harmony and unity with others enough to let go of negative feelings about the past

7) Pardons a wrongdoer, including oneself, with sincerity and courage

Needs to strengthen Forgiveness when he/she:

1) Keeps replaying the incident in his/her mind and holds onto bitterness and anger

2) Seeks revenge

3) Refuses to accept an apology when someone else has made a mistake or to make amends when he/she is at fault

4) Holds grudges and resentment and raises a problem or former error repeatedly

5) Withholds acceptance and pardon until the other person specifically asks for it

6) Criticizes the words or actions of others or himself/herself repeatedly and often harshly

Misuses the strength of Forgiveness when he/she:

1) Accepts unjust, abusive, or harmful actions from someone without resolution

2) Avoids holding others or himself/herself accountable for words or actions

3) Behaves poorly without restraint because he/she presumes automatic forgiveness

1...2...3...Family...Work....Focus....

Life becomes more fulfilling and easier to bear with a strong family to hold you up.

When the family is my curveball that constantly blindsides me, that's when the absence of a strong foundation makes life really difficult.

You don't choose your family. They are God's gift to you, as you are to them.
~Desmond Tutu

The only way to true happiness is to return to the roots of my happiness which is in my family.

Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.
~Jane Howard

    Understanding that it requires daily inspiration to achieve the positive life changes.

Let's face it...positive inspiration is the fuel that drives us toward our hearts desire.

 

Balancing work and family is a good place to begin with it, as it is a set out on the course to strengthen my family values.

Never let your work drive you. Master it and keep it in complete control.
~Booker T. Washington

 

Focus on the family is not a destination but a journey. It needs to be made a part of my daily work. Never steering away from my values and always looking forward. It's not the assets to accumulate but to contribute in building a strong, positive and thriving family that will determine the success in my life.

In time of test, family is best.
~Burmese Proverb

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I am Titanium....

You shout it out,
But I can't hear a word you say
I'm talking loud not saying much
I'm criticized but all your bullets ricochet
You shoot me down, but I get up


I'm bulletproof, nothing to lose
Fire away, fire away
Ricochet, you take your aim
Fire away, fire away
You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium
You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium


Cut me down
But it's you who'll have further to fall
Ghost town and haunted love
Raise your voice, sticks and stones may break my bones
I'm talking loud not saying much


I'm bulletproof, nothing to lose
Fire away, fire away
Ricochet, you take your aim
Fire away, fire away
You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium
You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium
I am titanium
I am titanium


Stone-hard, machine gun
Firing at the ones who run
Stone-hard as bulletproof glass


You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium
You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium
You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium
You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium
I am titanium

:: The Quieter you become the more you can hear :: You are still not a LOSER....

Marriage...

Thoughts of the day.....,

To complete the equation between man and woman, Islam grants the husband certain well-defined rights upon his wife. (These are, however, less expensive and narrower in scope than her rights upon him.)

"Men are the maintainers of women, because Allah has made some of them to excel others, and because they spend out of their property (for the support of women)." Holy Qur'an (4:34)

Wedding Ceremony, Minangkabau Indonesia

13th January 2013....

In Law's Family....

With the In Law...

The Youngest One ....

Marriage blessings are typically joyful speeches or toast that you bequeath on the wedded couple. It is generally a way of expressing that you are contented with the unification of the two and you let 

Happy Father's Day....

You have made me learned,

You have thought to speak,

You have taught me to walk,

You have thought me to live

what I am now is due to you!

thank you My Father and Happy Father's day to you.....